Seize the Moment: Part 2

I don't know when Emily and I will get back to Pennsylvania again, so our intention was to make every moment of our trip terrific. Why stay in a normal hotel when we can experience lodging unique to the area?

The night before we visited Gettysburg College and Dickinson College we stayed at The Lady Linden B & B in York, PA.

Prior to Bucknell University and Susquehanna University we enjoyed the topiary giraffe and cow at Phillips Motel in Shamoken Dam, PA.

Before our touristy day in New Hope and our spur-of-the-moment visit to Princeton University we had a fabulous dinner and overnight at The Inn at Phillips Mill.

After our busy day at Lafayette College, Lehigh University and Muhlenberg College we restored out energy at the Fulton Steamboat Inn in Lancaster, PA. We awoke after a night of ersatz rocking on the river well-rested for our tours of Franklin and Marshall College and Ursinus College.

Emily is the queen of quirky trip planning!

Seize the Moment: Part 1

My business partner, Emily, and I are on a Pennsylvania college tour. At each school we visited we met enthusiastic students taking advantage of the opportunities at their schools. Here are some examples: this week at Lafayette you could have seen former president Jimmy Carter, at Franklin & Marshall you could have heard satirist Joe Queenan and you could have been serenaded by the amazing a capella Ursinus College Bearitones.

It's not so much where you go to college that matters as what you do once you get there.

Still Undecided on Your College? Try Guided Visualization

As May 1 decision date looms closer, many students are still undecided about which school is the best fit. See my earlier post about why this is no longer an intellectual decision.

One technique that has been very effective helping my students decide is guided visualization. Before the visualization do the following:

1. Narrow the list to three schools you are choosing between (more is too many for your psyche to handle)

2. If at all possible visit all three (whether it is the first time or a repeat visit)

The visits may be enough to help you decide. If not, ask a parent or friend to talk you through this scenario for each of the three schools.

• sit comfortably in a relaxing spot
• take 18 deep breaths
• picture the school you are considering
• imagine yourself at orientation
• introduce yourself to three freshman and listen carefully as they introduce themselves to you
• go with your three new friends to a spot on campus you like
• share something you hope to get out of your college experience and tell them why you chose X college. Listen as they do the same
• go early to a class to meet with a professor. tell her/him about a research project idea you have and get her/his reaction
• participate fully n a class. Pay special attention to the professor interactions with students and the student engagement in the classroom
• go to the dining hall, grab some food, and sit with people you don't know. Join the conversation and pay attention to what is being discussed
• go back to your dorm and connect with your roommate
• go with your roommate into the dorm lounge and hang with other students. Notice the interactions and activities
• fast forward to your college graduation. You are the valedictorian. In your speech, share your three favorite memories from your four years in college

Use the same guided imagery for each school you are considering. Do not talk about the experience until you have completed the visualization for all of the schools. How did you feel after each? Where could you most easily picture yourself for the next four years. My experience with students is that if you are willing to be honest with yourself (set aside outside pressures and thoughts about the prestige of each choice) you will instinctively know where you belong.

Old-Fashioned Advice: Send a Thank You Note

My mom told my children that if they didn't send her a handwritten thank you note after each present she shipped them, no more presents would be forthcoming. My kids grumbled and complained that they should be able to email or call, but the desire for presents prevailed and they developed a positive habit.

Seniors, now is the time to send handwritten thank-you cards. Who should get them? Everyone who helped you throughout your college application process:

1. Your school counselor (and independent counselor if you used one)

2. Anyone who wrote you a recommendation letter

3. Tutors and test prep providers

4. The volunteers/staff at your high school college and career center

5. Any mentors who gave their time to you

6. The admissions officer assigned to your region at every school that accepted you (including all those you chose not to attend)

7. Any relatives or friends who will be helping fund your college education

8. Any organizations that have awarded you a scholarship

9. Your parents

Here's a sample:

Dear X,

Thanks so much for your support during my college application process. I am thrilled to report that I will be attending X college in the fall.

Your willingness to X (write me a recommendation letter, help me find great fit colleges, help me improve my SAT score, read my application, offer me a spot in your freshman class, help fund my college education, etc.) is truly appreciated!

Sincerely,

Your Name

Rude Financial Awakenings

This is my plea to parents of 7th-10th graders: get a financial reality check for college now! Yes, I know it might be scary and your expected family contribution (EFC) may be more than you feel you can afford. It's easy to put off unpleasant tasks and pulling out your tax returns and filling out financial estimators is not anyone's idea of fun. But hey, those taxes for 2012 should be just about filed by now, and this is the perfect time to use that paperwork for another purpose.

Your student deserves to know before he or she creates a college list what the financial parameters are. If you get tough news now, at least you will still have a few years left to deal with it.

Use the Expected Family Contribution calculator on a site like finaid.org. Calculate the numbers twice--once using federal methodology and once using institutional methodology (save the info!) You'll have a ballpark idea of what is expected of you, and you and your student can make rational decisions about next steps.

Inside the College Admissions Process

If you are a college junkie like me, you may have seen the recent movie Admission with Tina Fey or read the book The Gatekeepers by Jacques Steinberg. Both paint vivid pictures of the admissions process at a highly selective university.

For an abbreviated version of that point of view, read this article from the A & T Register (Making the Grade: Inside the College Admissions Process) which provides a peek into admissions at Lehigh University (which I am visiting next week). My takeaways: most admissions officers care deeply about students, character matters and demonstrated interest continues to be an important factor during the decision-making process. No big surprises, but good confirmation.

College Visits in Your Own Backyard

I live next door to Lewis & Clark College. I sometimes think of their beautiful grounds as an extension of my backyard.

One of the tasks I assign to all sophomores and juniors who work with me is to visit a small, medium and large college. I want them to experience the differences, rather than making a judgment based on hearsay. Fortunately, we have small, medium and large college options within easy driving distance of Portland.

For small, I recommend students check out Lewis & Clark, Reed, Willamette, Linfield or University of Portland. For a medium, I suggest Western Oregon, Gonzaga, or Western Washington. For large, the student could try out University of Oregon, Oregon State, Portland State or University of Washington.

When it comes to college, size matters, and it is important for a student to learn about his/her preferences. Although I sometimes encounter resistance from students who claim they don't want to look at anything so close to home, I explain that if they tell me they love X local college I can tell them about some similar colleges in alternate geographies.

A family without discretionary funds probably shouldn't spend money to travel across the country to look at schools. That same $1,000-$2,500 could be saved for college tuition, or reserved until April of senior year when the student has acceptances and financial packages in hand. That's a smart time to visit.